One day at work, one of my co-workers put her face into her hands and screamed. It was bizarre. All of us just watched, not really sure how to react. After a few minutes went by, the screaming got louder.
She was having a HUGE meltdown and it felt like acknowledging it might make it worse. I know that burnout happens. But watching it happen feels awful. For weeks, this co-worker, a single mother, had complained to me about having too much on her plate. When I arrived at the office, she was there. When I left, she was there.
Burn out has ended more than a few careers. But is it possible to help prevent a co-worker or even a boss from burning out? In most companies, hard work is rewarded with more work. Should anyone step in when they see someone who can't seem to strike a work life balance?
CareerCast.com says "We usually reach the point of being burned up when we try and tough out unpleasant work-related situations without an effective strategy. We ignore the signs of unhappiness, make excuses for the miserable way we feel on the job, justify staying on the job with any number of reasons, and gradually fall into a downward spiral where our motivation to change the situation is gone and, running on fumes becomes running on empty."
While it may be hard to recognize in ourselves, burn out could be easier to recognize in our co-workers. So, if we see some like my co-worker on the verge of a meltdown, what should be do about it?
CareerCast.com offers these suggestions:
- 1. Urge your co-worker to seek help from a trained mental health professional who treats work-related problems.
- 2. Step in with a gentle suggestion before the problem becomes so severe your co-worker loses his or her job or burns bridges.
- 3. Urge your co-worker to consult a career counselor to find out if he or she has other career and work interests at a new and possibly different type of job, profession or career.
- 4. Let your co-worker know that just because he or she is burned out on a current job or in a current role, doesn't mean it will necessarily be the same on a new job or new position. Circumstances change and, with it, a different job could lead to increased energy and a more positive frame of mind.
After my co-worker's complete crash, she was encouraged by her boss to take a long weekend. When she came back to work, she was offered a less stressful, lower paying position at the same company. I encouraged her to take it, although it meant she has to live more frugally.
A year later she seems much more in control of her work life balance and happier at work.
Lot of us see co-workers every day who can't or don't make time for a personal life. Sometimes it is by choice. Sometimes he or she feels the company expects a 24/7 commitment.
Have your ever witnessed a co-worker burning out? Do you feel a responsibility to say or do so something?