Today, I was reading a press release and I found myself declaring out loud that it was just a big bunch of B.S.
The topic was how to have a good personal reputation in the workplace.
The release says: "A good reputation is much more than simply being a hard worker; how you behave both as an individual, and with others, directly impacts your professional growth."
I'd like to think this is true. But look at the people who lead companies today and you are likely to find real jerks. Unfortunately having a reputation as a jerk often is overlooked if the person is a rainmaker or an innovative leader.
The release went on to say, "Understanding the value in showing gratitude, handling conflict in an appropriate manner, and simply being friendly, are all essential characteristics to a positive reputation in the workplace."
To that I say, having a reputation for being friendly gets you nowhere. Sometimes, it even gets you passed over for a promotion — particularly if you are a woman. I have heard men say, "She's not up to the job. She's too nice."
All of us, or at least most of us, want to be known as a valuable employee. And, some of us want to be viewed as leadership material. While being friendly can help you make the connections that land you a job or a promotion, it's what you do with those connections that matter. To me, having a good personal reputation at work is less critical to advancement than being someone the boss or client can trust to get a job done well or someone who comes up with a great idea and acts on it. I'd like to say that requires people skills. But often it doesn't.
Being friendly, handling conflict well, showing appreciation….those are nice qualities but unfortunately not always the ones that tend to lead to advancement.
What are your thoughts about reputation? How important do you think it is to be "friendly" at work?