Have you noticed at the Academy Awards, all winners thank their spouses. It’s the people you are married to who suffer the consequences of an all consuming job.
Before taking a job, most of us discuss it with our spouses. We tend to look at what this position means for us and also for our spouse and family — more money, less time at home, more travel, etc. When I saw an article about a trend toward more companies interviewing candidates’ spouses before they take high level positions, it made sense to me. In fact, I applaud the move.
An article in Corporate Counsel says ThoughSpot, a business intelligence company, invites a prospective employee’s partner to meet with CEO Ajeet Singh in the final round of interviews. “I want spouses to know that we’re not a company full of mercenaries that are going to bleed their families dry and not care about their life outside of work,” Singh told Business Insider.
While some lawyers advise against companies taking this approach, I think it’s fabulous. The legal concern is that the candidate could claim discrimination if the spouses raises a concern and the applicant assumes the offending information was used in the final decision, thus opening a possible discrimination claim.
Yes, that’s a risk. However, when you’re hiring someone and you have the buy-in of a spouse, you’ve already alleviated some of the tension that can interfere with job satisfaction. Americans today are working long hours. We’re getting calls from work long after we’ve returned home. We’re checking our email at the dinner table. There are so many ways work interferes with our home lives. So, if you’re going to call my husband during dinner, at least tell me the benefits of the job so I can see past the infringement it makes on my home life.
Recently, board members of a non profit organization were complaining to me. They hired a CEO and expected his wife to be involved, too. In the last year, she’s come to very few of the organization’s events. She has made it clear, she sees her participation as unnecessary. Had the board interviewed her along with her spouse, they would have known her position upfront.
When your spouse is going through a job search, you are emotionally attached to the outcome. It is much better for your relationship to have someone outside your home coaching him or her through the process. But when the search comes to the point where someone is seriously considering a position, I see it as a win-win for all to air expectations during the interview process.
What are your thoughts? Do you think a spouse should be part of late-stage job interviews?